Ah, body language. A woman can say so much without speaking at all, just by using a little female body language. Different from what you see with men where body language is designed to imply power and strength, women focus on flirty movements, touch, and preening. How can you tell the difference between nervous energy and actual interest? Here are a few things you should watch for.
Women use eye contact to draw in men they find attractive. You will notice that most women who are “on the prowl” will have given their eye makeup a lot of attention. The reason is that so much can be conveyed with the eyes. Striking eyes are very attractive and are an obvious tool for flirting.
If a woman stares at you for more than a couple of seconds, you can pretty much bet she is interested in at least talking to you. Once you start a conversation, assess if her eyes remain on your face, periodically flicking to check out your body or if they are staring past you and on to the next man. The first indicates a strong interest. The second indicates boredom.
Large pupils are a good sign; small ones are generally not a positive reaction.
Hair Triggers and Touches
Women preen. This means that if they are attracted to you, they will start to fuss with their hair. This is subconsciously designed to show you not only how healthy they are, but also full, lush hair is an indication of physical condition, which is indicative of trying to make herself more attractive. It is a sign that she is trying to show her best side.
Touching often follows, and this is where men tend to make the most mistakes. Women will start the touching exercise with a very casual touch. This indicates that she feels fairly comfortable with you. Generally men over-respond and touch back too strongly. Err on the side of caution, and don’t touch her any more intimately or strongly than she touched you. If you can manage this well, it creates an almost primitive dance of courtship.
Legs and Shoes in Body Language
A woman’s legs and shoes tell a lot about her frame of mind. If her legs are firmly tucked below her and wrapped one around the other, she is protecting her “private” space. If her legs are out in front of her and relaxed, she is more receptive to your attentions.
High heel shoes are recognized as a way to make a woman’s legs appear longer and sexier. They do this by adding the height of the heel and also by thrusting forward the pelvis and tightening the calf muscles when standing. This is a biologically appealing position. High heels have another purpose as well.
When a woman is dangling her shoe off her toes and bouncing her leg up and down, look to see where the shoe is pointing. If it points in your direction, it is another indication of interest.
These are but a few of the “body language” postures that women use. Take some time to study your subject. All women use the signals but a little bit differently. While it isn’t usually a conscious intent, it probably helps them keep men guessing. No matter what, don’t take it all too seriously. Welcome to the oldest game in history. You can find all these in westword too.
One has to take care of a lot of things when they gout for the first date or while dating, it about the way they talk, the things they talk about, how you portray your thoughts in front of that person, giving space, not developing extreme emotions, being natural and real.